You are reading the ongoing writing process for a new book of daily reflections/meditations. Already published by this author is “Cast A Long Shadow”, 90 daily reading for our journey through life. This book is now available as a Kindle e-book, (you don’t need to have a Kindle to download and read it on your computer) as well as still being available direct from the publisher, on Amazon.com, Amazon.co.ukand other Amazon European sites
It is all to easy to judge other people; to be the prosecution, jury, judge and executioner.
Because we know what other people are thinking; we can tell from how they act and what their expression is, what is going on inside their heads.
Or we see what they are wearing, what type of car they drive, what sort of music they listen to – and that tells us all about the person and what they think and believe.
We make these judgments all the time, and we assume them to be more or less accurate.
And yet, when other judge us we feel unjustly accused.
We know how our own mind is working, and yet others have made judgments about us based on our appearance or other outside factors, and come to quite erroneous conclusions.
In fact, we rarely have enough information to truly judge anyone.
We may assume from a person’s vehicle that they are rich, whereas it may be that this is the one luxury they allow themselves, and they are struggling to meet the payments each month.
Or because another person has an old beat up vehicle, we may assume that they are hardly able to make ends meet, whereas it could be that this is an old treasured car, one of the many in the person’s collection.
Any judgment we make about another person is almost bound to be off the mark, simple because we do not know that person.
And when we do get to know someone, it is often apparent that our first judgment was incorrect – we may like someone we thought we would not, or find that we have a lot in common with someone we thought totally different from us.
And yet, in order to get along we need to make value judgments all the time about people.
Should I stop and ask this person for help? If they ask me, should I give help?
We are bound to make mistakes in our judgment from time to time – the important thing is to recognize that our first judgment is not going to be the whole truth.
We can rely on our judgment to an extent, but we need to remember that this judgment can, and should, be changed over time.