You are reading the ongoing writing process for a new book of daily reflections/meditations. Already published by this author is “Cast A Long Shadow”, 90 daily reading for our journey through life. This book is now available as a Kindle e-book, (you don’t need to have a Kindle to download and read it on your computer) as well as still being available direct from the publisher, on Amazon.com, Amazon.co.ukand other Amazon European sites
Persuasion and force – are these opposite sides of the same coin, or are there fundamental differences between the two?
There seems to me to be a lot of similarities, and a lot of differences between the two.
When we are forced to do something, our own feelings are irrelevant, it doesn’t matter if we agree with the action or not, we just have to do it.
Similarly, when we force others to comply with our wishes, their own thoughts mean little to us at the time – no matter how “good” or “bad” our intentions, the fact is that we are imposing our will.
There is some of that in persuasion too – there is something about making someone want to do an action when they are reluctant.
But in persuasion, there is more of the element of being involved in the decision-making process; more of changing one’s mine and doing something that we now want to do, or at least are compliant in.
And here is where we can see that this applies to our inner life, as much as it does to relationships between people.
For example, we may want to do have achieved something, but if we try to force ourselves into it, we are often unwilling to go through with the action involved in completing it.
However, when we to persuade ourselves that the outcome is worth the action involved, we can accomplish whatever we desire.
A good example in my life is that I always wanted to have written a book – but that was not enough to force me into the action of sitting at a computer and producing it.
Only when I could persuade myself that I could really do this, and then take the actions required, that I got the job done – I was persuaded by action.
Sometimes, no matter how badly we want something, it is impossible for us to change our actions to achieve it.
This may be an addiction, a bad habit we want to break – or a good thing we want to achieve, or an action that we want to undertake.
What we need to do is to stop trying to force ourselves into the action – our will is not sufficient to do so.
Instead we need to use all our powers of persuasion on ourselves, negotiate and use whatever tools we need to.
The great power of persuasion is that soon we will want to do what we used to just dream of having done.