When we see someone hurting themselves by their choices, we want to help them for their own good. This instinct is, of course, an excellent one. To be a place where they can share in safety, or to offer suggestions of things that might help them, are wonderful kind things to do for a friend or loved one.
But the truth is that, as humans, we often need to make our own mistakes before we know better. No matter how “right” we are, or how “wrong” someone else is, we can’t control them.
Once we realize that we cannot make them take our advice, no matter how good it is, we can leave them in peace to make their own way in the world. What we can do is trust that they are exactly where they need to be right now, and let them go with love.
Today’s Meditation: What lessons have I learned from past mistakes?
Today’s Action: I will list the steps I can take to let others make their own mistakes safely.
Being content may sound like choosing second best.
We may strive to be happy and to see the best in everything, but sometimes even our best decisions don’t help us be happy, and sometimes the death of a loved one or the ending of a relationship, even the loss of some object that we valued, makes us sad.
Contentment may seem a quiet thing, something that comes along on us without our knowledge, but in reality, it too is something for which we can strive. If we are content within ourselves, we can carry on and push through temporary hurt or failure. So how do we get contentment in our lives?
One way is through acknowledging things for which we can be thankful. We tend to forget how much we have, and remembering these can help us. Another source of contentment is to do worthwhile things, to know that we have done something as well as we could, or that we have helped someone or been or service to them.
Today’s Meditation: Contentment requires balance.
Today’s Action: Today I will make a list of things that are right with the world and with me.
You are unique, no one has your set of life experiences, feelings, and genetics. At the same time, you are just the same as everyone else, especially those who share your geographical and cultural heritage.
To the casual observer, your life will look the same as countless other people who share your gender and general physical makeup. From inside, however, your own experiences will have created a world that is different from anyone else’s.
This is a great concept we need to remember. We don’t have an objective reality, and the world we live in is experienced through the filter of our own experiences and assumptions.
We all live in our own universe, at the same time as being in the world of others.
Today’s Meditation: In my quiet time I will consider the things that make me uniquely the same as everyone else.
Today’s Action: I will not be afraid to show my unique qualities today, while also acknowledging the uniqueness of others.
It is true that external events can influence how happy we are. However, it is always up to us to decide how the event will affect us internally.
When we recognize that we are powerless over many of the externals in our life, we are free of the guilt that things are not going according to plan. When we acknowledge that we cannot control or change the people in our lives, we can live our own life, rather than try to fit into someone else’s.
What we can control is how we react to the events and people around us. We can choose to be happy.
Today’s Meditation: Today I will reflect on the things that stop me being happy, and consider if they are in my control, or external to me.
Today’s Action: I will decide to be happy by leaving behind the things I cannot alter, and taking action on the things that I can.