You are reading the ongoing writing process for a new book of daily reflections/meditations. Already published by this author is “Cast A Long Shadow”, 90 daily reading for our journey through life. This book is available direct from the publisher, and also on Amazon.com.
Not everything is obvious.
Sometimes, even what seems the most obvious of truths turns out to be at best only partially correct, and sometimes to be woefully inaccurate.
This is because what is obvious often conceals what is true.
To us it may appear that a friend of ours has it all, and is completely happy. They will tell us how great their life is, and even when things seem to be going wrong, somehow they end up being content with their life.
And yet underneath, there is a concealed hurt and frustration, that is never given voice. There can be a deep hurt below the surface that is so well hidden, that even they may not recognize it.
In our lives, we need to maintain a balance between concealment and openness.
On the one extreme to be fully revealing to everyone opens us up for hurt and can put too great a burden on others – it can be a way of dumping our hurt on other people, just to make us feel better.
To spend 30 minutes telling the store clerk all my troubles may feel like I am being open – in fact, I am just venting to no good purpose. Not everybody need to know the minutia of my life, and to try to impose that burden on them is to make small Gods of the people I meet.
But at the other end of the scale, to conceal all my troubles, even from my closest friend or partner, is harmful to both them and us, as there is nothing that promotes closeness so much as shared sorry or happiness.
If I am suffering in silence, and not letting anyone in, I am showing that I do not feel they are good enough to help, or maybe that I feel uniquely bad and uniquely unable to be helped. Strangely, this is a manifestation of pride, of believing myself to be other than just another human being, doing the best they can.
The balance here is in knowing what should be concealed, and from whom. Or, to put it another way, to know who to be fully frank and open with.
Because there are those occasions and those people with whom we should be open, and there are those things that need to be concealed from most people.
Sometimes we will get this wrong, and reveal too much to someone who proves to be untrustworthy, or conceal something from someone we should have confided in.
But learning the balance is just part of our journey through life.