You are reading the ongoing writing process for a new book of daily reflections/meditations. Already published by this author is “Cast A Long Shadow”, 90 daily reading for our journey through life. This book is available direct from the publisher, and on Amazon.com, and as a Kindle e-book
Much as we would like life to go smoothly, we sometimes find hostility in our daily lives.
It may be our fellow workers, our family members, business associates, or even strangers in the street, but whatever the source of the hostility, it can affect us in really negative ways.
We can strike back in anger; meet hostility with even more hostility. This can soon escalate into a full on fight, and even draw in others around us. The result can be a long running feud with bad feelings escalating on all sides.
On the other hand, we may not obviously retaliate, but hold the feelings in close to our heart. Thus it may seem to the outside world that nothing has affected us, until the time when the pressure of holding that anger in is such that it explodes. And then it can appear as if we are the hostile ones, because it is not obvious to others where the anger is coming from.
Then again, we may feel such fear that we run and hide – either literally or, more often, figuratively.
This hiding can often take the form of retreating into ourselves; distancing ourselves from possible harm by not letting anyone close. This can indeed “protect” us from bad feelings, but it also shields us from any good feelings and positive emotional contact. And in the end we become disillusioned and depressed, because all around us we can only see the hostility of others.
Is there no good way to deal with the hostility of others then? Must the bully always win?
Whilst these solutions may seem to be failures, they are actually all at least partially. But they miss the one key point to living a truly free life.
The fact is we can not directly change how others react to us. We can change our behaviors, and in so doing we may influence how others act, but there is no guarantee of this change.
Our best solution in any such situation is to look to our own actions, and wish the other person well.
That may sound strange – but since we cannot change the other person, the best we can do is to pray that they find happiness, or whatever else it is that they seek, and then look at what we can do.
This does not mean that we have to “put up with” other peoples bad treatment of us – one of the things we may be able to change is where we are and what we say.
We may be able to speak out own truth quietly, but if not, then we can leave the situation with as much dignity as we are able.
To fight hostility with hostility leads to greater and greater harm. To meet it with love turns aside the harm, and allows us to live free.