September 20 Daily Meditation Writing: Mental

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Mental

 

There are many physical things that can give us pleasure or can harm us, but one of the strongest influences on our welfare is our mental state.

Two people can have the same thing happen to them – good or bad – but the impact on them can be totally different, depending on how they deal with it mentally.

There is really no real external way of stating if something is good or bad in any case – much of this depends on the outlook of the person to whom it happens.

This is because our mental state affects what we expect, and how we look at outcomes.

When we are totally focused on one thing – our career, our collection of memorabilia, even such “good” things as looking after our home or our loved ones – this is all that we mentally have room for.

So if anything else comes along that might, actually, be a better thing, we have no mental room to take it on board, and it slips away.

We can sometimes be so preoccupied with out own issues, that anything new is too much of a burden to us.

We can look at it as just one more thing that we have to cope with, one more problem to be solved.

In that mental state it is not really possible to see what is good, because anything more we take on will just add to our mental load, and we fear that we will sink under the weight of it all.

And yet there is a solution.

Because we are not totally at the mercy of our mental state – we may not be able to think ourselves into a better mental state, but we can act ourselves there.

When it is all seeming too much, maybe we need to admit that it is, take a break, and spend time in things that help us grow, rather than keep us under.

This can often be achieved by taking an actively thankful viewpoint – even when we don;t really mean it, just the act of giving thanks can help our mental world view.

By taking time to develop a positive outlook – even when all seems pointless – we can work our way out of the negative spiral.

Our mental state can help us to see the positives in more things around us, which in turn improves our mental state – a virtuous circle, that starts with one simple act of thankfulness.

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September 18 Daily Meditation Writing: Self-Control

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Self-control

The concept of “self-control” is easy to preach to other people, but sometimes hard to achieve in ourselves.

When we see someone drinking too much, taking unnecessary medication, or in any number of other ways harming themselves, we are tempted to think – or even say – just stop doing it!

Just put down the bottle, try living life without being sedated, or any other good advice, that would really help improve their life.

All they need is a little self-control – we can do it, why can’t they?

And here in lies the dilemma, because almost all of us have great self-control in areas of our lives – but seem to lack it in others.

There seems for most of us to be areas of our lives where we can excel, but others where our self-control seems weak, or even non-existent.

We know we should stop this bad habit, but somehow cannot seem to do so for more than a few hours at a time.

Or we know that there is something we need to do, but somehow we always find ways of avoiding actually starting it.

There may be are some who genuinely do lack all such ability, but most of us are able to do the “right” thing, most of the time.

But in one area or another we seem totally unable to bring to bear the discipline that we show in other things we do.

Self-control is easy to show over things that don’t trouble us – our real test comes when we find that our self-control is not enough to stop us continuing with something that we admit to being harmful.

At this point we have two options: we can pretend that we do have self-control, and that our actions are our own choice, that we actually want to carry on as we are.

Or we can do what seems impossible, and admit that our self-control is insufficient, and seek help.

That help may be practical, but more often it is spiritual or emotional.

When I eventually quit smoking after numerous attempts, it was not because I had suddenly found better self-control – it was because I admitted I could not do it alone, and sought out a support group of fellow quitters.

The simple act of acknowledging when our self-control is insufficient can lead us to a real understanding of ourselves, and help us to overcome what we could not do alone.

September 14 Daily Meditation Writing: Unwilling

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Unwilling

When we are unwilling to do something – even when we know it is the right thing – the thing itself can seem to be really hard.

When we feel like this, it is worth looking past the action, to our feelings – why do we feel unwilling – is it reasonable, or fear based?

Often, the unwillingness comes from fear – of other people and their reactions, of the outcome, of failure – or even of success.

Many of us live in a world that has been shaped by rejection in one form or another – in that regard, the fear may appear “logical” inside our heads – why would we once again set ourselves up to be hurt?

But even in that fear, we can often work through it because it is the next right thing to be done – sometimes, we have to take an action, regardless of how others look at it.

Most often, when we complete a needful act that we were afraid to complete, we find that our fear was greater than any actual outcome.

We find a lot of self respect in actually following through with a needful action when we are unwilling to do so – anyone can do something that they want to do, to do it even if we do not wish to takes a special kind of strength.

On the other hand, sometimes our unwillingness should be listened to.

If those around us are urging us on to actions that we feel are incorrect, or actively wrong, maybe we should attend to our unwillingness and take notice of our inner feelings.

Because it may be that our unwillingness is a sign of lake of courage, or it may be just the opposite – it may be that our inner soul is urging us to do something entirely different.

Often when we are with a group of people, there is a herd instinct that takes over, and the individual is swept along in the actions of the crowd.

Or we are with a strong willed individual, who carries us along with the strength of their rhetoric.

But still inside there is a small voice of personal reason – a feeling that this is not the right thing to do, and an unwillingness to do it.

In these times it is easy to put that feeling aside, and go with the easy option of following what others say.

If we listen to our unwillingness, however, we may see that this is a real, not a fear based, instinct.

Sometimes, we need to trust ourselves.

September 12 Daily Meditation Writing: Instant

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Instant

More and more these days we seem to want instant solutions, instant results, Instant gratification.

If something does not go immediately as we would wish, we feel like it is all wrong, and that nothing can ever be right with us, unless we change where we are and do something new.

Change is a wonderful thing, but it’s as well t remember that change often happens slowly, not instantly.

Any bad habit we want to change crept up on us slowly, but by bit, until it became a problem: it didn’t happen instantly, and it won’t disappear instantly either.

Any new thing we are trying will seem strange for a while – just like a new pair of shoes we need to grow used to the newness of it all, and not expect instantly to “get it”.

We have to remember that life is a journey, and that means it moves on from one thing to the next, slowly over time.

When I travel, I sometimes wish I could have a machine that would instantly transport me from where I am to where I want to be, without all the inconvenience of travel.

The long car drives, the waiting in line for a flight, the seemingly endless train trip – all of that, it sometimes seems, takes the joy from the journey.

And yet some of my best moments have come unexpectedly during a journey to where I thought I was going.

The short stop for a coffee that turns into a wonderful exploration of a town I never knew existed; the stranger met in an airport departure lounge, that has an interesting perspective to provide; the ever-changing scenery I drive from lowlands to hills to mountains and back again.

All of these wonders I would miss if I had a magical way of getting from A to B without any view of the land in between.

And in the same way in our life journey, if our goals were met in an instant, we would lose all of the joy of the journey, and the things we see along the way.

Instant gratification is just as instantly over – when we take time for the journey, we find that joy is longer lasting.

September 11 Daily Meditation Writing: See

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See

It is an intriguing facet of human life that we can each look at the same thing or situation, and yet see it differently.

All of us look at life from our own perspective – it is not just that we are all driven by our own ego; it is also a fact that we all have different experiences to draw from.

What we see and what we look at are two separate things, because what we see is a product not just of an external stimulus, but also of our own inner world.

This does not mean that we – or other people – see is wrong, but it does give rise to confusion and miss-matched views of the world, and it is these miss-matches that can cause problems.

You may have thought through an action, considered every angle, and come up with a reasonable approach to solving the issue.

What I may see is you doing something I don;t understand, apparently without thought of the consequences, and so I may try to help you find the right solution.

In turn, you see someone trying to interfere with something that was going to work out just fine, but now is in danger because of my interference.

I may then get upset that my offer of help has been rudely rejected, and the feelings of rejection on both parts just continue.

And all of this is caused by our seeing the world only from what we know – only from our own limited view-point.

There is a fine balance to be found here, and whilst we can never be perfect, we can strive to be better each day and on each occasion.

Because we are able to learn – if we are willing to accept that what we see may not be the whole truth.

There is always more to find out, always more than one way to view a topic, and when we realize that, we may be able to see things from different perspectives.

When we are open to seeing things in new ways, this opens up for us the possibility of new horizons, and new interpretations – new ways of seeing.

Because once we can see things from another persons perspectives, our world view broadens and deepens, helping us to travel along this journey through life.

September 2 Daily Meditation Writing: Single

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Single

There is only one of you.

There is only one of me.

All of us are single individuals – and that is both the strength and weakness of us all.

As a race, Humans gain great strength from our “singleness”.

From such great variety comes all the good – and bad – that Humans are capable of.

Humans have prospered and spread all over the globe because we all have unique talents that others do not – so together we can achieve more than one single person working alone could do.

Our differences – our singularity – have helps us all become more able to live – some of us have provided ideas for technology changes; some have put those improvements to work; still others have used them to create resources for us all to use.

So this singleness has been of great benefit to the human race as a whole – we would not be where we are now if we were all the same.

The obverse of this singleness is that we can all feel very alone at times.

This can have the effect of making us believe that no one else is important – that we are the center of the universe, and so what we want to happen should happen.

But when we do that, the results can be some of the worse things that mankind can do to itself.

Wars and atrocities start when people believe themselves to be different – to be single and not connected to the rest of humanity.

On a more personal scale, we can take this singleness into ourselves, and hide from the world.

When we do this, our world contracts to the inside of our own heads – and that is a dangerous place to be alone.

So the singleness of each of us can be both a blessing and a curse – can make us a bone to humanity, or a drain on it.

But for most of us, most of the time, we just try to keep a balance; to strive to accentuate the positives that we alone have, but to remember that we part of the human race, not single from it.

September 1 Daily Meditation Writing: Petty

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Petty

There is an interesting difference between what we think is of importance for us, and what seems petty in others.

The concerns we hear others talking about often seem of little consequence – we may think “how can they spend so much time thinking about that”.

At the same time, we can spend our own resources on things which, whilst important to us, seem secondary to other people.

Why this disconnect?

Perhaps it is because we all create our own worlds inside our brains, and so we all have our own view of how the world works.

To me, it is important to do this writing: to express myself this way is one more tool I use to help me on the road to a better, more productive life.

But doing so could well seem a petty concern to a homeless family starving in an isolated part of the world – their greatest concern is merely to get somewhere to sleep and something to eat.

That may seem an extreme example, but it is reflective of all of us, and of how we see perceive what is important.

That is not to say that everything everyone concerns themselves with is truly important, but rather that we need to consider the perspective of the individual, before judging the importance or pettiness of something.

There are many people who spend a lot of time on collecting, or in following a sport, or other activities that most of us would consider a hobby.

From the perspective of a hobby, the amount of time and effort these people put into this relatively petty activity may seem ridiculous.

They may scour the country for the next object to add to their collection, filling every space in their home with these objects.

We, as outsiders, may feel this borders on obsession – indeed it can often cross over that imperceptible line and become an addiction.

But to the collector, everything else seems petty compared to the need to go on collecting.

In the ens, maybe everything is petty compared to the journey we are on through this life – that is the important task we are engaged in.